tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18257728.post8870841296072202803..comments2017-06-07T15:07:41.330-05:00Comments on Shanna's Journal: Love vs. Career?Shanna Swendsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07558317020951521656noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18257728.post-60612041926716218092010-07-16T11:08:11.753-05:002010-07-16T11:08:11.753-05:00That's an interesting point that Chicory made,...That's an interesting point that Chicory made, because that's exactly what I had to do. I got married, and then after we'd been married for about 4 years my husband joined the military. It was a decision we made together, obviously, although that doesn't negate the fact that ultimately I'm a homebody and would rather have stayed in the state where I'd grown up and where both of our much-beloved families live.<br /><br />In the two years since then, we've lived in two new states, three houses, and we've spent months in hotel rooms with two kids. It's been rough. And in a few months we'll be finding a new house and moving in with a newborn. But you suck it up and make it work.<br /><br />I think part of the reason that books/movies don't really have this sacrifice of "place" anymore is that we're so used to moving around the country that so many people would have a hard time seeing how you could love a locale so much that giving it up for your love would be a sacrifice. And even when fiction tries to portray love of a place, it's rarely the home locale of the watcher/reader, so they sort of naturally have a distance from it. Maybe?<br /><br />I think another good choice is recognizing real love, and making choices between men... perhaps one who offers greater security and closer ideals to yours, and the other for whom you feel a dramatic (perhaps more sexual) love for, but who offers a lifestyle more extremely different from your own, maybe less secure. Movies love to show a person giving up the picket fence banker who is kind and generous for the motorcycle-riding dude who is just so much more attractive, but that's not always the right choice for every woman. And people confuse true love with lust all the time. And then there's always the sacrifice of love for honor, as in the case where somebody is already married.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18257728.post-66444294016988137062010-07-15T06:51:02.024-05:002010-07-15T06:51:02.024-05:00I agree with Chicory. That's what I usually se...I agree with Chicory. That's what I usually see on the movies or tv sit-coms. <br /><br />Home is where the heart is and if you're with someone you love then you would always feel that you're at home. No matter where it is as long as you guys are together. It sounds like a mouthful! lol<br /><br />I gave up everything for love and I didn't regret it since my husband is one of a kind. He was also responsible that I found a new career path and skills that I didn't know exist in me.<br /><br />Btw, I hope you got my email.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18257728.post-44142390478314963302010-07-14T20:07:27.317-05:002010-07-14T20:07:27.317-05:00Hmmm... that got me thinking about what people giv...Hmmm... that got me thinking about what people give up for love. Seems to me it'd be more likely to be a place. Like, if you want to be with your true love, you'll have to move halfway across the country, because that's where he is. That's rarely the sacrifice in movies, though. Maybe because there are so many sit-coms and movies where someone almost moves, then changes their mind and realizes that home is what's important that people don't think of home as a false desire.Chicorynoreply@blogger.com